Discipline your son, and he will give you rest

familia Sep 19, 2017

By: Manuela Castellanos


With three precious kids, I have had to pray for a lot for grace and wisdom to raise my children. Derek Prince once said that a child never needs to be taught to be rebellious, it is part of the human nature. For example, you don’t have to teach your child to not share his toy, they naturally don’t want to do it. On the complete contrary, we need to teach them how to share, boundaries, and to not yell or get upset when things don’t go their way.


I love the book of Proverbs! It’s part of my daily discipline to read the Proverb of the day;  I never stop learning from the great truths written by King Solomon. Proverbs 19 contains various principles in regards to discipline, that as parents we should study and out into practice. It is so easy to be influenced by how others discipline their children, or by the way we were disciplined. But I think the Word of God needs to be where we run to to make decisions.


Proverbs 29:15

The rod and rebuke give wisdom,

But a child left to himself brings shame to his mother.


The first principle I learn from this verse is that the rod of correction works to form our children. Something we have determined to do with my husband is to not tolerate rebellion in our kids. As parents, we cannot overlook our children’s bad behavior, it will do them more damage in the long run. For example, if Noah so happens to hit his little brother or yells at us, as his authorities, we need to take immediate action. Generally, we use warnings. But like all children, there are days where warnings are not enough, and that is when we have to use spankings. For example, a week ago, Noah was being a little stubborn. In other words, he did not want to listen to the instructions I was giving him. He was definitely testing my patience, and after much persuasion, I finally got him in the bath, and let him play a little. When it was time to get out, he threw a tantrum, and started to scream, yell and throw the toys around the bathroom...parents, I think you get the picture. That is when my husband and I had to spank him. We never use a random object, nor do we do it in anger because our goal is to correct our children, not hurt them. Honestly, spanking can be a blessing when used correctly. We have seen the difference in Noah after correcting bad behavior. He becomes obedient, sweet, and his best self comes out. Many times in the Bible, the Lord compares Himself to a father who loves his son and corrects him.  He correct and disciplines us out of love like mentioned in Deuteronomy 8:5 and Proverbs 3:12.


Proverbs 29:15

The rod and rebuke give wisdom,

But a child left to himself brings shame to his mother.


The second thing this verse tells us is that we need to correct our children. When I see this, I understand that you cannot negotiate with rebellion or foolishness. When we see an incorrect behavior, we need to immediately take action. I am going to be honest, correction takes time. Sometimes, it’s not in the day’s plans, but it is one of the most important tasks we have. As parents, we are called to form our children (who are diamonds in the rough), and smooth out the roughness in their character until they become those wise men and women of God. Correction is a repetitive and constant process. It is not something that is learned one day to the next. We need to raise children who are kind and sweet, who know how to say “thank you”, who not only focus on themselves, but from a young age teach them about loving their neighbor.


The results of discipline:


Proverbs 29:17

Correct your son, and he will give you rest;

Yes, he will give delight to your soul.


  1. Our children will not be a burden to us, or take our peace or rest.
  2. Our children will grow up to be people of wisdom, which is the purpose of formation.
  3. Our children will be our joy.
  4. Our children will bring honor, and not shame.


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